Should I be ashamed?
Am I a freak?
A grinch, a soulless beast, a Kardashian-hearted money grubber?
I wonder that sometimes. Because here’s what I see:
People in the online business world (life coaches, business coaches, healers, private chefs, virtual assistants, copywriters, dog psychics) who cater to other people in the online business world (other life coaches, business coaches, healers, and so on)? Especially women? Who call themselves things ending in -preneur?
They all start their websites the same way.
HEY THERE, GORGEOUS!
You’re here because you’re a change maker. A leader. You live to serve, and want to make a BIG impact in the world.
You’re here to transform lives.
The only problem is…
And then it gets to the problem:
…You’re tired. You’re unknown. You’re afraid to “play big.” You feel bad charging what you’re worth. You’re a crazy-busy mom. You have adrenal fatigue and carpal tunnel syndrome and sugar shock and brain fog. You’re a people-pleaser with no boundaries and no time for YOU. You’re a funnel-phobe. You’re overwhelmed by your overwhelm. You’re frenzied and frazzled when you could be fabulous and fierce. You haven’t stepped into your awesomeness, or leapt into your greatness, or sat and slid around in your juicy, delicious, superb-idocious-ness. You don’t know how to hold space for bubble baths.
(Some of) those are problems worth solving. But let’s go back to the beginning, the assumption that every one of us is here to make big change and create major transformation. In the world. (Always, “in the world.” Or “on the planet.” So global.)
Anyone not? Am I the only one raising my hand?
Am I the only one who doesn’t identify with the term “heart-centered” or “purpose-driven” because, even though I have a heart and a purpose, mine don’t seem big and squishy enough to qualify for those terms? (Whatever those terms mean. To me, they scream, “Please don’t accuse me of caring about money!”)
Am I the only one who’s not all global an’ shit?
I don’t wake up every morning thinking, “How can I serve more people?” or “How can I start a movement, a revolution?”
I DON’T CARE
Sorry, that just came out of me. It’s not totally true. I care about people. I care about how my work affects them. I love it more than anything when someone says, “What you wrote is exactly what I needed to read today.” Or “The copy you helped me write has already brought in 5 new high-paying clients.” Yay! I do like helping.
But more than that, I like entertaining people and making them laugh.
And yeah, I like being known for it.
I’m not going to pretend it’s because being known means I can make change on a larger scale and share my message with more people. Sure, that’s fun stuff, but really it’s because being a little famous feels great. Even if it’s fake famous. Only-in-this-tiny-weirdo-corner-of-the-internet famous. Look, I don’t think anyone is out there googling “Laura Belgray net worth” or “Laura Belgray plastic surgery.” [UPDATE: Thanks to recent articles revealing both my income and my age, these actually have become search terms.]
But “Laura Belgray website,” people have googled. And I enjoy that. Fellow nerds coming up to me at any kind of nerdfest and saying they nerd out on my work, I enjoy as well. Dark secret: I like attention!
More than anything, I like having fun doing what I do and making money from it. That’s my “Mission Statement,” K?
I suppose if I were all about the money, I’d learn about investing and spend my time doing that. (I did sign up for James Altucher’s cryptocurrencies course in a moment of weakness, right after I heard that if I’d spent a a thousand bucks on bitcoins 7 years earlier I’d have made over five million dollars. I never cracked the course open, but did buy some bitcoin—at the high. #wompwomp)
But yeah, I’m largely about the money.
You heard right. I like-a da money.
I like having it, I like spending it. I like eating in great restaurants, I like living in NYC, I like lots of expensive things. I like travel and loathe flying coach. I like my 5-dollar coffee, sometimes twice a day. My life, the way I like to live it, costs a tidy bundle. The way I’d really like to live it costs way more.
(This is the part where I’m supposed to say I want to spend lots more on charity. Yes, and, that’s what everyone says to justify wanting money. I’m not doing that.)
My friend Denise Duffield Thomas, author of “Get Rich, Lucky Bitch,” says that everyone has what she calls “money blocks.” I won’t argue. I’ve got ’em, big time, or I would…I dunno, save some? Ever?
But not everyone’s money block is that they feel they’re above making some.
I suppose even if I didn’t need or want the money, I’d still write. Maybe I’d still take a client here and there. One a week. But not all of them. Because I don’t need to help all the people.
I’m happy helping a select handful of cool ones. People who aren’t offended when I mock seitan or say I hate yoga and still have no idea what “light work” is supposed to mean.
Time to stomp out the epidemic of sameness (disguised as sassiness) that’s been raging through the industry like Norovirus* on a Carnival Cruise.
[*Norovirus joke made long before days of Covid. Leaving it as a time capsule.]
There’s this panic that if you’re not about “female empowerment” (vague) or wiping out famine, then you’re the douche making videos with bored, borrowed models in front of borrowed Lambos. Like there’s no in-between.
Everyone’s reading everyone else’s website copy and email copy, and thinking, “Hey gurl, you want to transform lives — in a big way” is what you have to say if you want to stand out and resonate.
Not with me, it’s not.
Now, maybe I’m not the person you’re looking for. Maybe you’re grossed out by everything I’m saying. But here’s the deal:
If you cater to other service-based online types, or entreprenerds in general, think before you market yourself:
Are you SO SURE your client or customer is here to change the world?
If not, time to change your approach.
Now you.
Thoughts on this? Are you tired of seeing the same copy everywhere?
Do you secretly feel like you don’t fit into this “change the world” box?
TELL ME IN THE COMMENTS.
I’ve done this too. I’m easily influenced, I admit it. And I’d totally bought into the idea that for me to be a *proper* boss-babe (you heard me), I had to want to change the world, a client at a time, and impact, not just a couple of thousand lives but millions. Hey, in the era of global reach, that shouldn’t be so hard, right? I CANNOT TELL YOU what a relief it is to hear that this is not a prerequisite for running a business, for being a -preneur. And that it’s okay to want to make money. I’ve always said that the only people who ever say “money can’t make you happy” are those who’ve never experienced lack of it. So thank you, Laura.
Ohhh j’adore !
Laura Belgray, you speak to my heart! I’m a Lazypreneur, is that a thing? I’m sure it doesn’t need much explanation, but I want all the goods and glory without having to do all the work. I’m a hard ass working mama and I’m constantly asking, can someone just pay me to be me? Anyway, I’m still figuring it out (searchingpreneur), but I just found out about you 2 days before spending 2 weeks in NYC and I would be lying if I said I didn’t Google “how to run into Laura Belgray in a cool cafe” and casually bump into you, like “Laura, Laura Belgray?” what a coincidence. I just finished your book and now my nights are consumed with searching “how to make money online so I can move to NYC with my three kids and buy a boat”. I signed up for your newsletters and I’m sure I’ll be consuming much more of your content soon because I do really just want to love what I do and make a few bones (a term I’ve never used to describe money, but I’m trying it out here). So thanks!
That’s hilarious I’m a “lightworker.” Lmao. That’s the job. The fairies of expensive goodness…or Massage therapy. A lot of sameness in the wellness industry … but when I grow up I want to be like you. Thanks Laura, I never want to fly coach again!
Ahhh Laura! I love this! LOVE THIS!
LBG –
First of all you’re a rockstar and a magical word princess. How is it that every sentence that comes out of your mouth is funny? If I had a super power, that’s what mine would be. But I can talk in different accents and one of my friends wants that one. Can we trade? I can do a Yiddish matchmaker…
here’s the thing – I want both. And I don’t want to change the world directly – I want to help people change themselves and change the world in the process. And I LOVE nice things. I love first class. I love my shoes – and I don’t feel bad about it.
I believe that anything that makes us happy, joyful etc. raises our vibration – plastic surgery, coolscuplting, a Ferrari – anything – and by doing/having that – we’re doing it for everyone. On a physics level we’re all connected yada yada.
So to your point – do what makes your heart sing and that’s the ticket. Follow your Bliss – that’s Joseph Campbell, right? I keep meaning to read that book…
Thank you for what you do and for bringing giggles to the world. I think you’re a genius.
Best. Article. Ever. It’s so refreshing to read this. Unfortunately, I still fly coach. One day I’ll be like Beyonce singing “take you to another level, no passengers on my plane” 😀
While this post does not necessarily resonate with me in the sense that I am one of those writers who works for holistic healers and sincerely wants to make a difference in the world…. I fuggin love your writing and I love that you’re honest here. I don’t think everyone should have the same goals and dreams and ideals that I have nor do I WANT everyone to. The world would be a miserably boring and dull place if so. So my consensus (not that it really matters): THIS IS FABULOUS.
Goddammit. I thought I was the savoir. Drawing board. Sigh.
Hi, super late to the party, I just discovered your site.
I relate so hard to what I’ve just read. A mere 2 days ago I asked a business coach if it is okay that I don’t have a noble and mighty goal like that. And she said yes, it’s totally okay, but she also challenged me to find some deeper meaning in my work than “making enough to have a comfy life”.
And I realized I actually care about helping solopreneurs and small businesses get the attention they deserve. I hate nothing more than seeing an amazing product with meh copy and misguided marketing. To the point that I often comment on botched Facebook ads to give them engagement but also to steer them in the right direction. And recently I signed up to do pro bono consulting for a nonprofit, just because I enjoy fixing bad copy and build a social strategy from scratch. But I am not delusional, I don’t think I am changing the world in any major way.
sO GOOD!!! Feeling extremely CALLED OUT here! haha time to re-visit the copy!
thank you for shining a light on this!
Yep yep yep!! Amen! It definitely made me feel better about myself since even if I wanted to, I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t be able to change the world.
I do want to help though and also make money doing what doesn’t feel like work every day.
This is so refreshing. I follow a fair number of entrepreneurial-types, and I have lost count of how many “Hey, you want to change the world but _____ is in the way” sites and inspo quotes I’ve read. It’s boring, to be honest.
Everyone can’t be a world-changer. Most of us just want to make money doing something we happen to be both good at and that we like to do.
@Laura thanks for doing you!
Most of the time when we express are true colors ‘experts’ want to continue dumping their woo woo and heart sells vommit. This is a refreshing perspective and way forward.
Omg yes. This post is EVERYTHING. Do I want to help teachers? Of course. But my first thought when I started my business wasn’t “how can I help the most teachers?” It was I’d really like to pay for my future children to go to college. I want a fully funded retirement land for my husband a me. I want my dream house and to be able to travel whenever I want. I will do all that through helping teachers. But I went into business to make $ first and foremost. I think it’s weird that people have a hard time admitting that.
I’ve just starting following you (online that is; I’m not literally following you because that would be weird and also quite difficult from the UK), so I’ve only just discovered this post. I love it!!! I’m so fed up of all this hype/pressure that we should change the world, and that unless changing peoples’ lives is our primary motivation we’re selfish good-for-nothings. Thanks for being honest and admitting you’re largely about the money. Good for you! I actually like you even more for it.
I change my clients’ worlds and that’s good enough for me. Punto final.
I LOVE this! So much. Going thru b school now and the copy cure is high on my list.
The irony is, none of us can save the world. Or change the world. Honestly, how are you going to walk into a Taliban camp and change the world? Or into a starving village in Liberia and save the world (altho some people do).
So I ask all those Changemakers our there: What is your “change-the-world plan?”
The only thing we can truly “save” or “change” is ourselves. Period. And as we change — becoming less self-centered, kinder, more generous, more forgiving, more capable, fill-in-the-blank here — the world begins to change around us, starting with our families, our communities, our towns, our cities–you get the idea. The landscape around us changes, hopefully for the better!
Thanks for the clarification, Laura, because like too many, I have fallen into the trap of appealing to the “Change-Makers.”
I don’t dislike the term. I just think the term is mis-appropriated. And seldom pondered.
It is us who must change, improve, grow, contribute, care–whatever. How funny that so many are focused on changing the world, but not themselves.
I agree we can only change ourselves. And “changing the world” can be an excuse for some not to do that work.
It’s also a paradox. None of us can change the world. And yet all of us can’t help but to change the world.
Meaning just taking a step in the dirt and leaving your imprint is “changing the world.” Perhaps not in a meaningful way, but changing it none the less.
And taken to a bigger picture, each decision we make ripples out and affects those around us, like the butterfly effect, thereby ‘changing the world.’
This happens whether intentional or not. For instance, bees may just want nectar and pollen. Yet they support an entire ecosystem even though they don’t care about that.
Same with entrepreneurs who have a net positive effect on the world even if they’re just going after nectar (money). The copy Laura’s written has probably directly or indirectly influenced millions of lives thereby changing the world on some level.
My hope is the net effect at the end of my life is the world is a little bit better because I was here.
Ultimately, we’re dealing with beliefs that serve as a filter. And therefore it will mean different things to different people.
Does believing “I can change the world” make you more effective? If so, great. If however it’s a cop-out not to work on oneself, then it’s a hindrance.
What’s interesting about some of the other comments I see here is that a few feel “anti-world-changer.” Probably as a backlash to being shamed for not wanting to change the world by some various ‘light-worker’ types.
My attitude is… if someone wants to change the world for the better and they speak to their tribe who wants to do the same, more power to them.
And if that’s not someone’s thing and they want to focus on living a good life and making lots of money (and they’re not harming anyone), more power to them as well.
The bigger issue is when either “side” tries to make the other side wrong for simply feeling what they feel.
Laura, I hate to tell you this.
You may not be out to the save the world, but I think you just saved me.
I have felt like such a loser lately. They tell me, my fucking frequency isn’t high enough, I’m not owning my power, and I’m making decisions with my brain. Yes, I got called out for using my brain to make decisions instead of my heart or my gut. I still don’t know what that means.
Some time ago I got mixed up in the WOO WOO and as a result I’ve totally lost my JUJU, my sanity and my self respect.
It’s all so fucking serious. I’m sick of it. All these damn light workers need to lighten-up.
And, from now I’m going to stop buying into the pressure to be a savior, to usher in a new era of consciousness or save anybody from planetary and human extinction. I want somebody to show me this damn soul contract I supposedly signed saying I’d save the world when the time comes.
I’m done with the B.S. and the woo woo bandwagon.
Damn, I feel liberated, like I got out of Scientology just in time, with all my savings in tact.
You are the real deal, Laura Belgray.
LOVE THIS! SOOO LOVE THIS! And really needed to hear it!
Always love the laughs. I dream of working with you and one day I’m going to freaking do it!
I think we’re all “coin-operated” to a degree – because we live in a society where things cost money.
As I step into the truth of my grey hairs, my desire to change the world is dwindling. It’s gone from changing the planet to changing my country to changing my community to changing my neighborhood to just changing me. Changing the world takes a LOT of energy.
It would be interesting to see how many people want to change the world if we lived in a society where everything was free.
I would love to see that experiment, too!
I tried to leave you a comment on medium but my brain couldn’t figure out how to post a reply ????but I gave you some claps. This was beautiful written and kind of put out there what I have been feeling. I also love my work and love to earn a living so that I can buy the things that I value, give my husband a gift from my own account and travel whenever I want. Yes it does seem like everyone is doing the same thing. That’s why I you spicy, silly and funny you. You honesty and your amazing copies. Thumbs up girl!
I so appreciate you even trying. That platform is terrible for comments. And different on every device. Thanks for the claps and the comment over here, which I also love!
Refreshing and oh so true! I have a blog post coming up on my new blog where I’m talking about emotional and financial HABITS vs the whole “do this and get rich” thing.
Unfortunately I find the same videos and books that are motivating towards better habits in general are also the ones that make big claims about how much can be earned. It’s difficult to separate those two.
Thank you for your post!
It is hard to separate them, because you have to dangle a little magic and incentive for people to change their habits. Right?
LOVE IT. Honestly, if most people truly wanted to change the world, most of us would be working for free or for much less than we charge. I mean that would be the only thing that makes sense since most of the world can’t afford us. Literally. I think all the scammy sh*t needs to stop. Stop pretending like you (the seller) don’t care about money, but then charge $5k for your latest course. No. Just be real. Be like I want to be rich b*tch! Otherwise, I would just give this to you out of LOVE or hey, I’ll sell it to you at cost! Yeah right. I freaking love money and I make no secret out of that. Ironically, I actually think my prices are hella reasonable for the level of service I provide.
That’s another thing, actually. Other side of the coin. People who REALLY don’t care about money and REALLY aren’t doing it for the money being told they’re not “owning their worth.” Can’t someone be allowed to do something for peanuts if they want to and aren’t struggling to pay the bills?
Ugh. I’m guilty of this sometimes but if I am honest, I hate it.
Blech blech blech.
I already updated some blogs before reading this, I might go update some more.
One of my patients once called me a spiritual bitch.
That about sums me up. I should live that. In full.
That’s funny, because so many bitches use spirituality to pretend they’re not.
I can always spot ’em. They rip into me in emails signed “blessings.” ????
Yup yup yup. Been thinking about this post non-stop since you wrote it. Honestly, this type of copy doesn’t just look “samey.” It actively makes me feel bad. Wait… should I not be an entrepreneur becuase I don’t want to impact millions of people? Am I a bad person because I don’t care about the world? Does copywriting even REALLY change the world? I want to make enough money to support my family, buy a house I love, and travel as often as I can. I want to enjoy my day job and get real good at it. The rest is gravy.
I’m so with you! Meanwhile, everyone’s out there pouring a plate of gravy and saying, “here’s the dinner you desire.”
I’m pretending to extend your metaphor but really I just wanted to say something about gravy.
You: I don’t wake up every morning thinking, “How can I serve more people?” or “How can I start a movement, a revolution?”
Me too.
You: I’m happy helping a select handful of cool ones.
Me too.
Nothing wrong with not wanting to save the world or reach out and touch the universe. It’s hard work. And we’re not all equipped emotionally to handle that load.
But we can reach out, find our “tribe”, find the people close by who need and want to work with us, who energize and excite us–and that’s (more than) good enough.
Nothing to be ashamed of. And I’m glad that you wrote it down and said so.
Thank you! I’m glad that you’re glad. Here’s to those people who energize and excite us.
googling “Laura Belgray net worth of plastic surgeries” RIGHT NOW
Hey, thanks to this post, now there’s a search result!
Sure, not everyone wants to change the world. But maybe that person’s ideal client does. Maybe they don’t WANT to take every client who comes along. And that’s totally fine – it’s their business.
But if your services and goals aren’t aligned with your client’s needs, *emotions,* and goals, the business relationship probably won’t be very good. And they certainly won’t be paying you the big bucks.
Yes, I agree – that IS what some people’s ideal clients want. Lots of them, probably. But everyone assumes it now. Or copy-pastes it.
Your photo is going on my wall of heros right next to Anna Wintour and Björk. That is all.
Wait, let me put on my swan before you take the pic!
Hell-freaking-yeah!! As a former Yoga teacher, I can identify with the “light workers” of the world, but that doesn’t mean that I think EVERYONE is out to create a revolution (though we could use a few of those, haha).
As an entrepreneur for over 13 years, this has been the #1 thing I’ve struggled with – the constant emphasis online of “keep growing, keep changing lives, bigger, more more more!”
Yeah, I like to help people, and being able to help a few more as a writer, speaker, or podcaster is spectacular, but I don’t need 80,000 follows on Twitter or 100,000 podcast listeners a month to tell me I’m helping people. Quantity isn’t everything.
That doesn’t mean that I don’t have money goals and follow goals – I’d like to help more folks and make more money, but not obsessively. It’s not what I spend most of my day thinking about. I’d rather now. That sounds miserable.
After over a decade of secretly feeling like I don’t fit into this “change the world” box, I’m over it. Not drinking the Kool-Aid anymore.
“Play a bigger game” is forced on us everywhere. I like the idea of it, but if I didn’t need to earn money — and want lots of it — I might be OK playing a small game. I don’t know, I can’t tell! So hypothetical.
Laura,
The people who do want to change the world do it because they’ve the faced inequality, adversity, hardship themselves. And they don’t want others to have to experience the same. Do you think the lack of a desire to change the world stems from having lived a privileged life?
Totally disagree. I have faced racism, serious money problems, issues at school and work, issues with harassment and assault, shitty boyfriends, shitty friends, and more. Don’t get me wrong – I have TONS to be thankful for, but I don’t think that hardship or inequality or adversity just automatically make you into an altruistic human being. I think that’s something you just inherently are. I love helping people and being an advice-giver and a shoulder to cry on, but I have no desire to change the world. I used to because I thought I had to say that to be accepted in my circles and even by myself. But then life happened. And reality set in. And I realized that what I wanted to teach people likely won’t even reach the ones who need it most. I’ll continue doing it, but my work is geared towards a specific market. Now I say it loud and proud – I love money! I hate thinking about whether or not I can afford everything I need and want. Money equals freedom for me. Freedom from worry and dependence on others. And I don’t mean to get super technical here, but “inequality” doesn’t just apply to people who don’t have enough. Inequality can mean having a lot too. Just wanted to jump in with my two cents. Thanks for listening!
I’m with Tanya, although I haven’t faced racism except for once in Chicago at a Starbucks in O’Hare. But I’ve faced plenty of mean girls who wanted to cut me, so I think that kinda counts. And all of the other hardships on your list above.
And I agree with you Laura. The other thing — and I know this is far into this conversation from a week(?) (longer?) ago, so I don’t really expect a response, but wanted to chime in anyway. In 2009, I started a marketing company here in LA when I got laid off. I ended up doing a ton of cause marketing for companies to help their most likely well-deserved stingy, lame reputations. In 2009, it wasn’t yet really a “thing” and the campaigns I created generated close to $1 Million in earned media, while they paid me a very, very low monthly retainer. So it was great for them. NOW, in 2017, so many friggin companies do it that not only is the news and the marketplace saturated with it like deep-fried butter, but it’s not even as effective. It’s kind of just noise. And mostly, it’s bullshit. You know like companies who are stealing water, but cleaning up the creek they’re stealing it from and contributing to women’s welfare, just SO.MUCH.BULLSHIT. all packaged neatly and with a “we care” bow on it. It’s disgusting. And it further feeds the narcissism of a lot of business owners and assuages their guilt (or keeps us from feeling envy when we see how “nice” — what an icky word that is — they are).
For those who are called to save the world, please, carry on. For some of us, speaking primarily for myself, of course, just keeping myself off welfare and Medi Cal for now is my plan to save the world — from me.
And, really, my favorite heroes are the unlikely ones who just happen to step up to the plate when they’re really needed: the people in Las Vegas a few weeks ago who took injured friends and friends of friends to the hospital, who brought supplies to first responders, etc. I find it so strange that so many (and I’m not saying that Maria is this AT ALL) but so many of the entrepreneurs I’ve seen who are out to make the planet a better place won’t lift a finger (or a cell phone) to look in on a neighbor who might need help.
Why can’t we just make money following our calling, knowing that showing up where we feel compelled does help those that need it, or even that making a great piece of art can change someone’s day, perspective, and uplift them in the moment just when they most need it. The biggest differences we make are really in the tiniest moments of just being decent, open human beings.
Anyway, I don’t want to change the world (although I wish I had a magic button to change a lot of political things sometimes, or one that could impeach certain pussy grabbers). But my hands are pretty full just working things out for myself over here.
Maria, I do come from privilege. Everything about me might be informed by that. But then there’s Tanya, offering a totally different side of it. Plenty of privileged people want to change the world, and plenty who come from hardship don’t have that drive.
Being a doctor who’s truly in it to make an impact, I couldn’t ever really decipher the inner world of someone who didn’t want the same. You just gave me a better understanding of people I never quite understood. And frankly judged. But, as long as you’re living your truth, who the fuck cares. Here’s to not putting up a front.
Thank you! I like that you’re trying to understand a different worldview. More people understanding means fewer people feeling like they should front.
This is an extremely fantastic quote, “Time to stomp out the epidemic of sameness (disguised as sassiness) that’s been raging through the industry like Noro Virus on a Carnival Cruise.”
I know many of these voices, I consider many of them friends, I probably am one once in awhile, and yet I cheer this post. Perhaps because, like you, I am desperately tired of seeing the same copy over and over and over.
Nicely done.
Thank you, Sonia Simone! I consider many of these voices friends, too. I most respect the OGs who started the trend. They’re exempt from being called sameys because they were the freaks back when. I love what you said, but most of all I love seeing your famous pink hair grace my page. It even matches my brand colors.
Laura, Thanks for this post (applause for 10 min) You are my favourite bad girl with the biggest cojones in the female online business industry. Every human being (including myself) needs to find their own copy voice instead of trying sounds like heroes who will save the world. NEXT: I will rewrite my whole website.
Thank you, Yuly! I’m your fan right back. My big cojones and I are waving at you. Can’t wait to see your newly written website.
I’ve always wondered…what does “heart-centered” even mean?!
Great post.
It means you start the day by sage-ing your work area, from what I gather.
Oh girl, I just felt something go ‘pop’ in my heart. Or my loins; could’ve been either.
I’m not alone!!!
Boy oh boy, this has been pissing me off for ages. I’m so glad you said it. All of it.
Sign me up; we’ll get jackets made.
You are officially signed up! What should our jackets say?
I never want to fly coach either, though I suppose I will. But I absolutely LOVE first class. And I like renting Airbnb houses with great views when I travel. And separate rooms for kids and parents. And more than 1 bathroom. And to stay right on the water or ski slope – no hauling your stuff. And I love people too, even if they aren’t gorgeous and merely looking to fly first class.
If there’s one change I would like to make on this planet, it’s to see to it that every person has their own bathroom. No one should have to share!
Especially not you. And beach-front, slope-front always.
Where the hell is the Meryl Streep-at-the-Oscars gif when I need it? You know, the one with her standing next to JLo and cheering? (Was it the Oscars? Whatever.)
I initially got this in the newsletter, but I had to come here and comment. I AM SO WITH YOU. I like yoga classes where the instructor says “fuck”. I like combing through Instagram, but I also want to enjoy nature. I’m at the beginning stage of freelancing (that side hustle life), and I’m blogging about balance, but dammit, I want to use the word “dammit” on my blog because that’s how I speak.
ALL OF THAT TO SAY is that you nailed it. I needed to see that there are people out there like me. Thank you.
Say lots of dammit and fuck on your blog. I approve!
Right now feeling so liberated I’m about to take off my bra.
Truth: people who lay it on thick with words like “community,” “impact” and “feed the children of the world” are full of sh*t up in their $30 mil brownstones.
I care about the world, but probably not much more or less than the 100 people you meet at and charity benefits and fundraisers.
Don’t get me wrong – I’ve got total respect for the mother Teresa’s and gandhis of the world, just not for the buzz-word dropping, social climbing, gold diggers.
And if I sound bitter right now – I’m not. I just like what’s real, natural and authentic. Which is why I love, love, LOVE Laura and her emails!
Ugh, community. I’m never looking for that, either. I do like friends. But a community of like-minded soul sisters? Nah. Thank you.
You’ve hit the nail on the head with this post, Laura, and I love it.
For sure I want to make a difference but do I want to change the world? I think not, although I admit I have my favorite causes and support them.
I’m content making a difference in the lives of a specific subset of the world who know I can help them and are able and willing to pay me for my help.
I loved my corporate job and it payed me well, so why not a service that is more human-centric where the impact will last for a lifetime? And which I love?
My clients aren’t interested in saving the world either – they just want peace of mind and success in their chosen career path.
See, good for you for knowing that about your clients! You’re so ahead of the game.
You really, really made me laugh out loud with your superb-idocious-ness and your Carnival Cruise Noro-Virus. I agree – I can’t stand reading websites about coming into my own awesomeness. Blech! And while I’m at it, I get a little annoyed when people tell me how much they love me in their emails. Really? Maybe be honest and say you love my $$$ because you don’t even know ME.
Ew, I don’t think I’m subscribed to anyone who says they love me. Actually, I may be guilty of that when I say “I love you for reading” or “I’ll love you forever if you leave a comment.” But that’s true.
Woah, some serious truth bombs here! I love it.
Reminds me of Gary Vaynerchuk…he tells people to own their truth.
Not everyone is built to be an entrepreneur. Some people make better team players on a B or C team and if they own it, they may realize they’re happier there.
People feel like crap when they work hard at being something they simply aren’t.
Not everyone is meant to save the world.
Not everyone is meant to be a business owner or freelancer.
Really moving into your space and owning it is all about honesty.
Honesty with yourself, your loved ones and your clients.
When you thrive and do what you’re built to do, whether your focus is on charity or obscenely priced shoes, everyone wins.
Yes to that!